Why Sex Can Be a Hurdle for Men Over 40

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Editor’s note: This article is provided for informational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or treat any condition. Erectile dysfunction can be a sign of serious health issues. If you have erectile dysfunction, see a licensed healthcare professional in person.
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Erectile Dysfunction or (“ED” — the inability become erect or maintain an erection) commonly occurs in men over 40, affecting one in two men. This article explains a different perspective on why sex can become such a hurdle and the specific steps a man can take to make it to the end of the sexual race without stalling, regardless of his age.

We think of ED as something that just happens as we age. This isn’t altogether true, there are several factors which can be contributing to the problem. You’ve probably heard of the term “use it or lose it.” This is also true for the sexual muscles in your body. If you don’t exercise the groups of muscles used for sex and therefore don’t keep yourself sexually fit, then these muscles can atrophy and lose their ability to perform.

Now I know you’re going to say to me, “But Jacqui, my partner doesn’t always want sex as much as I do!” Although this may be true (and I have specific strategies to overcome that issue too!) there are still specific exercises which you can do to improve the strength and virility of your penis. This will eliminate one of the contributing factors toward ED of “I’m not using it, so I’m losing it.”

If you live a sedentary lifestyle and spend much of your time behind a desk, or you are overly busy with teens or work commitments, don’t let either become an excuse to not exercise your essential sexual muscles. Without exercising these muscles specifically and regularly, then week by week you will continue to lose muscle tone. This is why by the time a man reaches 40, his lack of relevant exercise and inert state may have started to impact his sex life.

Regardless of how busy your life is, throughout the day there is always “dead time.” This is the time spent waiting for the kettle to boil… waiting for someone to finish up in the bathroom… waiting for a report to print… There are many times throughout the day when you can convert that dead time into valuable “Sexercise” time which will have enormous payoffs in the bedroom!

If you want to enjoy great sex well into your eighties, then you need to maintain (or attain) a certain degree of physical fitness and prime your body for that reality. Sex requires a certain amount of physical strength and fitness in men. If your sex muscles aren’t strong, then you won’t last long enough, it’s as simple and logical as that. It’s important to not only strengthen the penile muscles but also the surrounding muscles. These other muscle groups support you in achieving great sex.

No-1 Penis Strengthening Exercise

This exercise will strengthen your penis muscles, and thereby make it easier to attain an erection on demand. It can also help restore any size lost over the years. Sometimes your partner may surprise you unexpectedly and this exercise can ensure you are always welcoming that event, so you don’t cause your partner to think you are losing interest!

Think of it as a bodybuilding exercise for your penis. You can do this exercise while sitting in traffic on your way to and from work, or sitting at your desk. Flex your penis muscle (this is what you instinctively do when you are urinating, and need to stop the flow of urine.) Now, what I want you to do is flex your penis muscle and keep it contracted for the count of 5. Then relax. Repeat this procedure 20x. For maximum effectiveness, do 20 repetitions of this exercise 2-3 times a day.

The Best Core Sex Muscles Strengthening Exercise

This is an oldie but a goodie. Push-ups. Also known as press-ups, push-ups engage nearly every muscle in your body, including all your core sex muscles, making it an ideal sexercise to do in your “dead time.” Instead of lowering yourself all the way to the ground, simply lower yourself halfway down. This easier version enables you to do faster repetitions, which increases your physical fitness as well as your sexual strength.

In your first week, do 10 push-ups 3x daily. Then increase to 20 push-ups 3x daily. You will be surprised at how good it feels to not only regain control over your muscle programs but also to see your body regaining its earlier shape and fine form. Admiring your well-formed muscles is a turn on for both you AND your partner, which also aids in attaining an erection!

In summary, do your penile exercises while you are confined to sitting and waiting, then push-ups while standing and waiting – or in the advertisement breaks while watching TV. In committing to doing these exercises consistently, you can overcome two of the common hurdles of age-related ED. These include regaining your sexual strength and stamina – as well as earning some well-deserved confidence and self-esteem.

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