Americans are raised with the belief that they can start their own company, work hard and success is assured. Men in particular are acculturated to believe that they can “go it alone” and build their dream company. Sadly, that is generally not the case.
I’ve helped dozens of people over the past 25 years who wanted to “hang out their shingle” and leave the corporate world behind. Thankfully many of them are still in business today, some sold their companies and others failed to listen to seasoned advice and paid the price by losing their companies.
Being a man in America we are fed a steady diet of expectations and “rules” which we are supposed to live by, but if you want to strike out on your own, you need to take a hard look at yourself. The successful entrepreneur has dug deep to determine what they are good at, and more importantly what they are bad at. It’s those deficits that we as men tend to minimize, hide, feel shame around and ignore. That’s a mistake, because those are the things that will come back to bite you when you’ve not outsourced, or delegated them to someone who is better equipped to handle them.
Men are not supposed to admit weakness, but the only way to win the war is to recognize strengths and weaknesses and shore up the easily attacked places. I’ve used an inventory process for wannabe entrepreneurs for years and it has a way of surfacing the places where the problems are most likely to crop up for people. I’ve used this with partners as well as individuals, because often partnerships are formed with two people who are too alike. This can create a future problem if there’s a critical area that neither partner is strong in. For example, if two engineers decide to start a company, if neither of them is good at sales, they may have a great product, but without sales, it wont go anywhere.
Men are not supposed to admit weakness, but the only way to win the war is to recognize strengths and weaknesses and shore up the easily attacked places.
This deficit in the sales department can be outsourced or delegated to a trusted employee, if you have qualified someone as good in that area. Hiring well is another skillset that most men tend to need some education on. Unless you’ve been a leader on a team before, it’s a common practice to hire people you like, over ones that are less likable, but better equipped for the job. This is a totally normal human thing to do, but a bad business practice, after all, we’re leaving the corporate world to get away from the people we didn’t like.
Being the boss means putting in longer hours than the staff. The responsibility of being a CEO/Founder is immense. Oftentimes men will let it take over their lives to the exclusion of other things like their health, family and friends. The problem they run into is that overworking leads to burnout, burnout leads to mistakes, mistakes can cost a company a prized contract, or a reputation. Every CEO/Founder needs to manage their time in an efficient way and this is when delegating and outsourcing becomes crucial.
Anything that can be put onto an outside source or delegated should be dispatched as quickly as possible. Marketing, graphic design, Information Technology, Sales Support all of these require focused attention and an overworked, sleep deprived CEO/Founder is likely to make mistakes.
The skills necessary to be a good entrepreneur are completely learnable, and the tools needed to be a success as an entrepreneur are available – the biggest obstacle that most men have to their own success is getting their old programming out of the way, and setting aside their egos that tell them they have to do everything themselves. The self-reliant man may have been a good idol in the 1800’s, possibly the early 1900’s but by 1950 was definitely due to be replaced, and certainly in the 2010’s we need to overhaul what a man needs to know, be and do, as an entrepreneur.
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(via The Good Men Project)